The Coercive Control Survival System
A Special Collaborative Offering from Dr. Mei-Ling Ellerman & Courtney Gilmartin
The Protective Parent's Masterclass
Where knowledge brings you clarity, and evidence lets you gain back control.
Are you coming out of a relationship feeling confused, misunderstood, and frustrated? Did you think that ending the relationship would finally stop the abuse, only to find it has followed you in new and insidious forms? Do you now feel overwhelmed, unheard, and discredited by the family court system, or even your own family attorney? And all the while, are you fighting a constant storm of false allegations and "walking on eggshells" as your ex twists your lived experience into a weapon against you?
For the first time, I have joined forces with renowned coercive control expert Dr. Mei-Ling Ellerman to create a comprehensive class for protective parents. Together, we have created a two-part masterclass designed to arm you with the foundational knowledge to understand the abuse and the practical, step-by-step method to prove it with indisputable evidence.
Grounded in knowledge and armed with proof, it's time to reclaim your power and your peace.
Course 1: The Foundation - Challenging Coercive Control
Instructor: Dr. Lisa Ellerman, Coercive Control Expert & Brandeis University Researcher
In order to defeat your opponent, you must first understand their playbook. Because coercive control is a subtle and often misunderstood form of abuse, many legal professionals lack the deep training to identify its patterns. Relying solely on others to build your narrative is not only expensive but often misses the mark.
This foundational 5-class course is designed to train you to be the expert in your own case. By gaining a thorough understanding of the abuser's tactics, you will be able to create a clear and accurate narrative, save thousands in legal fees, and confidently guide the professionals working on your behalf. You will learn to put a name to the abuse, create firm psychological boundaries, and understand the abuser's overarching strategy.
Course 2: From Chaos to Clarity: A Strategic Documentation Workshop
Instructor: Courtney Gilmartin, Protective Mother & Founder of Monarch Consulting Group
Once you can identify and better understand the tactics of coercive control, the next step is to translate that insight into compelling evidence. Abusers thrive on chaos and seek to destabilize you so they can remain in control, but the one thing they cannot manipulate is clear, factual evidence.
In this hands-on, 2-part workshop you will learn how to transform your lived experiences into a clear, organized, and compelling case file. The Monarch Method creates a solid foundation built on indisputable evidence that grounds your case in facts, not fear, allowing you to systematically refute false allegations and regain control of your narrative.
In Course 1, you will learn to:
- Identify the full spectrum of coercive control tactics used against you and your children.
- Recognize the signs of trauma in yourself and your children that demonstrate the harm being caused.
- Decode how abusers control children and escalate their tactics post-separation to isolate them from you.
- Understand the "big picture" strategy of how abusers manipulate systems like courts and schools to push their false narrative.
- Name and counteract tactics like DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender) that are designed to discredit and disempower you.
Participants will receive:
- The Challenging Coercive Control Toolkit Workbook which retails for $69
- Detailed PPT slides from each class
- Examples of coercive control
- Bonus working examples completed in class, which helps participants think through their own lived experiences
Format: All classes are taught live on Zoom. To ensure participant safety, privacy, and a candid environment. Please note: sessions will not be recorded. A portion of your fee goes towards funding coercive control research, education, and advocacy efforts.
Class Dates:
Tuesday, October 21, 2025
Friday, October 24, 2025
Tuesday, October 28, 2025
Saturday, November 4, 2025
Thursday, November 9, 2025
In Course 2, you will learn how to:
- Utilize an effective method required to transform incidents into powerful, court-ready evidence.
- Systematically dismantle false allegations with an organized, evidence based timeline.
- Build and maintain a centralized Case Hub to strategically manage all your case documentation.
- Bommunicate more effectively and with less conflict, both in co-parenting and with legal professionals.
- Streamline the legal process and reduce costs by becoming an indispensable, organized partner in your own case.
Participants will receive:
- A ready-to-use Strategic Case Hub Template
- A Strategic Documentation Guide
- Live feedback and hands-on practice in a supportive environment.
Format: This module consists of two live, 90 minute virtual sessions designed for immediate application. To ensure participant safety and privacy, these sessions will not be recorded.
Session 1: The Strategic Framework: We will cover the foundational principles of effective documentation, from the language of the court to building your case hub.
Session 2: The Documentation Lab: A hands-on working session where you will apply the methods to your own examples and receive live feedback and participate in a Q&A session.
Class Dates:
Tuesday, December 2nd
Saturday December 6th or Sunday December 7th
*depending on participant availability
The Investment
Enrolling in both courses in the masterclass is a commitment to yourself and your children.
To honor that commitment, we've included an exclusive bonus toolkit.
Course 1: The Foundation — Challenging Coercive Control $599
Course 2: From Chaos to Clarity: A Strategic Documentation Workshop $299
Exclusive Masterclass Bonus Package
When you enroll in the both courses, you will receive over $425 in strategic tools and resources, absolutely free:
Free Admission to the Protective Orders Workshop $175 Value
A live, deep-dive workshop with Dr. Ellerman that teaches you how to prepare for the courtroom, write a strong
affidavit, and plan for your safety. Attend any session that fits your schedule.
Over 200 Talking Points $100 Value
Versatile, court-ready phrases and statements to use in various legal and co-parenting situations.
A Strategic Guide to Your Narrative $50 Value
A high-level guide to help you weave the evidence you've gathered into a powerful and impactful story for the court.
Language Guidelines $50 Value
A quick reference guide for using powerful, objective language that the court can hear.
Protective Order Guide $50 Value
A practical, step-by-step guide to navigating the protective order process.
Total Value:
$1,300
Your Investment:
$898
